5 Reasons: Why Are You Irresistibly Attracted To Certain People?

 

On this planet Earth, among the millions of beautiful human beings who are beautiful and unique in their ways, which amazes you, but when it comes to romantic love, you find yourself falling in love with only a particular person who gets your attention. You feel irresistibly attracted to that person. You wonder why it's happening. What's the link that makes you gravitate towards that specific person? Although we all look the same from the outside, physically.

This phenomenon is known as the similarity-attraction effect. It’s no secret that we’re drawn to people with similar interests as ours. The science behind attraction is no longer a mystery box where you have to guess what's inside.

Similarity-attraction means we’re attracted to people who like the same things as us—politics, music, and books—and it doesn't mean we’re judging those who aren’t like us harshly.

I am sharing five reasons why you are irresistibly attracted to certain people.

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1. Shared Same Attributes:

Our attraction to people who share our characteristics is aided by the assumption that those shared characteristics are motivated by something deep within us: our essence. Our essence consists of our beliefs, values, principles, and interests. Meaningful connections and meaningful relationships may develop when you go to a party and find someone who laughs at the same jokes as you or has picked that unpopular delicacy that only you enjoy. One little, common interest initiates a conversation—Ah, that's my favorite too!—and grows into a long-lasting attachment or relationship. Thus, we prefer people who are similar to us because it also increases our comfort level.

2. Criteria:

Each of us has some kind of mental checklist that comprises the requirements that a person must meet for you to love him. If a person does not fulfill some of the criteria on this list, he is disqualified from being a potential partner, and you will consider him a friend instead. Of course, the items on your tick list are unique and personal to you based on your background, values, past experiences, and beliefs.

People are often unconscious of their subconscious criteria, so they define love as a mystery with no laws.

For example, some of us prefer an independent, self-reliant person or maybe someone physically attractive; some criteria would be a beauty with a brain, someone would pick a long black hair person as a partner, someone would prefer a jolly individual, emotionally stable, or maybe someone who has financial security.

However, as they become aware of their subconscious criteria, they will be able to understand why they fall in love with certain people but not others.

3. Unmet Needs:

You might fall in love with someone if he has something you miss or require. A dark guy, for example, may be attracted to a light-skinned girl; a girl with low self-confidence may be tempted by someone forceful and confident.

The psychology of unfulfilled wants can overlap in many aspects of your life, but it is especially relevant to dating and can explain why you gravitate towards specific people or fall into a pattern of being drawn to the same types of people throughout your life.

Assume a boy grew up with low self-esteem and confidence issues as a result of his perceived physical unattractiveness, inability to gain validation from women, and mistreatment from his own parents. This is a large list of psychological unmet wants, but knowing all of this helps to clarify what he will most likely be looking for while looking for a possible mate. For starters, this is the type of guy who is most likely to be looking for a "trophy wife."

4. Opposite Attracts:

Based on my own life experience and observation, whether we are conscious of it or not, we attract the kind of individuals that resonate best with the life lessons we desire or have to learn. Consider the 

empath and the narcissist. Both depict the same part but at opposing extremes of a scale. These two kinds may be drawn to one another because they share life lessons about balance. If both are willing to learn, their mutual attraction to each other might help both by teaching each a little bit of balance through interaction. Similarly, introverts may enjoy extrovert company.

5. Similar Looks:

If an individual resembles someone you once loved or someone you currently adore. For example, if you were a boy, you might fall in love with a girl who looks like your mother or a girl who looks like your father. Of course, the individual will not look exactly like your parents, but they will have some facial characteristics that only your subconscious mind will notice. Assume you knew someone who was really pleasant to you and whom you admire. If you see someone who looks like that person again, you could get attracted to him even though he has done nothing nice for you.

Summary:

Keep in mind that we are all wanted by someone. People are drawn to a wide range of characteristics. What gets individuals thrilled—sexually and relational — is essentially limitless. So, simply be yourself, and you will be attracted to those who compliment you well.