How To Influence And Connect With People

Six Ways To Influence & Connect With People.

 

One of my younger students questioned me about interpersonal communication skills and how I could interact with people effectively. Dealing with people in the present digital world is still a problem for many even though we have social media platforms where communication is instantaneous and knowing someone and connecting with strangers, growing your network is fast and not a problem of concern. But what about face-to-face conversations and meetings you keep in your daily lives where your art of communication cannot be concealed? 

I know communication on Social Media is a skill and has the rule to influence the receiver to consider you appreciably. You can hide your anxiety, nervousness, and error by editing multiple times on social media, although when you start communicating in your physical presence, it cannot be concealed. 

You need to know how to improve your art of influencing people with good communication and a long-lasting impression so that if you have made mistakes once, you do not have to face the same mistakes again.

The Art of Communication is the Language of Leadership which shows your Worth.

With your words, you either let others feel a little better or a little worse. Your communication and how you use it to deal with people will make your relationships and influence others.

In my experience, what I have learned so far will be shared here so you can improve your soft skills and let your fear of dealing with people get away. I will explain it in six ways for your easy understanding.

Influence People in Six Ways to Make a Lasting Impression of Yourself: 

 

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1. Initiate In A Pleasant Way:

Have an open attitude towards others. Have an amiable and humble approach when you approach someone. Do not display a reserved and aloof nature. Have that welcoming character that allows people to want to respond to you in kind ways to your conversation. When we have that friendly nature, it would not mean that we agree with all the opinions, perspectives, and suggestions of the other person, yet we show respect and courtesy. If you find the other person uninterested, busy and aloof, still show respect and courtesy and mirror the sentiment by giving them space even if you have known the person for a long time. A friendly way has a subtle message that you are a valuable individual.  

2. Smile: 

Smiling has a tremendous power that only a few people realize. Someone said that a smile costs you nothing. However, it increases your face value. Some people are not that expressive and open to everyone, but you can give one of your smiles that make them a memory that lasts forever. Give your happy emotion. Even if you are not a smiley and expressive person, smile at the start of the conversation and the end of the meeting and give a warm smile as it will make an impression about your persona well. A smile, whether visibly written or verbal, in both ways, opens the door of influence.

3. Discuss What Matters to Them and Show Interest in Other Interests:

Showing interest in others' interests and discussing things that matter to them is another good way to connect with anyone. We usually believe that the connections we have in our life, whether professional, friends, family, or acquaintances, come from the sheer volume of these things. The truth is that it does not reflect the real influence. It comes in connecting with individuals, nurturing those relationships without expectations, and positively serving them by adding value to their life. It also can be done simply by listening to others' matters, interests, and problems and lending a hand in need. By giving value and honour, you are building a community and starting initiations with what matters to them.

4. Leave Others a Little Better:

Always leave people a little better. You might be surprised how far it can take you. People love to be around positive people. People do not like complainers, naggers, and who has negative energy that makes others feel annoyed. They will avoid you not yet, but definitely in the future.

5. Keep Others Trust:

Look for ways to remind your social circle, friends, and people around you that you are more interested in a long-term relationship than a one-time transaction. Honour your commitments. Avoid arguments and leave minor mistakes because it gives you a favour. We usually have a habit of letting people know when they commit mistakes. Although they already know about it, we do so in the wish that they will correct themselves. When we overlook others' slips, we gracefully empower ourselves, to avoid those mistakes. If we would not leave it, it will take away our attention from the time we would need to focus on building a positive relationship.

6. Connect With Empathy:

Remember, empathy is a thing that needs to be present in every conversation and meeting you make with other individuals, be it your family members. It is not a networking tactic to be learned or leveraged. It ought to be present in you as a human being as it is associated with human influence. Listening to others longer, having an understanding approach, and giving them space and attention is something that leads them to believe you and allows access to their inner world.

Do Remember:

Remember building a network, connection, friendship, and relationships take time. It needs nourishment like any other things we give priority to our life. If you want to build an authentic personality and character, always be yourself but also consider your behaviour in interacting with others because it matters as you are an individual too who has an influence on someone else.